If you were sick, would you see a doctor? How about, if you had a tooth ache, would you go see a dentist? What if your hair was a wreck and you needed to have a conditioning treatment, would you see a cosmetologist or barber? Here’s another one for you, what if there was a dinner party you’ve been invited to and you wanted to look and feel your best, would you seek an opinion from someone you love concerning how you look? I’m assuming that most of us would answer yes to these questions. Almost everyone want to feel good and look their best. Most people will try anything possible to beautify their outward appearance, but won’t take time out to make sure our their insides are feeling good as well.
People don’t like to talk about how they are feeling. Most of this is because they struggle with being able to express how they feel, and find it easier to express what they thinking instead of what they’re feeling. Take for example: If you ask your friend how does he feel about going to the dinner party, he’s more than likely to respond by giving you his thought, as opposed to his feeling. He might respond by saying, “I think it will be fun, so I am going to attend.” Well, thinking and feeling are two different things. Because I’m interested in knowing how he feels, a more appropriate response might be something like this, “I’m excited about going to the party. I can’t wait to attend.” Notice the word, “excited” which expresses a feeling. When we can’t find the right word to express how we feel, we tend to explain it away with our thoughts. We do this often because we’ve been socialised to believe that talking about how we feel is a sign of weakness. Showing weakness is one of the many reason why people avoid seeking therapy. There is an irrational belief that if you seek out therapy then that means, that you’re not strong enough to handle your problems on you own. This type of thinking keep people from getting proper help when they may need it most.
I wish I could say that there are no stigma's associated with therapy, but the truth is, there are. People avoid getting help simply because they don’t understand what therapy entails. They believe the stigma's. I'm not trying to convince you that therapy can be useful in various ways, such as assisting you with making decisions, raising your children, bettering your marriage, choosing careers, and overall emotional health just to name a few, but I want you to understand that therapy is so much more than the negative connotations attached to it. As a therapist and a consumer of therapy services in my past, I encourage you to give it a try. You just may be surprise by the results that you'll get. What do you have to lose besides becoming a happier version of you.
Click Sarcasm is a mean form of communication and it's an indication that you are angry about something. When you are being sarcastic, it's because you are hurting inside and possibly angry about something and you just want to get back at that person that has hurt you. Words are like seeds you plant in the ground. You can not get good fruit from bad seed that has been planted. When you speak negatively and bad words towards others, be prepared to reproduce negative results.
Think about this; when you open your mouth and sarcasm comes out, what does that communicate to the person you are talking to? It communicates that you are hurt about something and you're possibly being defensive about something. When someone tells you that your are being sarcastic and what's coming out of your mouth is offensive to them, and you're response is "No I'm not", "No it's not" or "I didn't Mean anything by it." Consider this, "Yes you are, and yes you did mean to hurt that person," that is why you said it to begin with. Most times, when we speak out of emotions, we are revealing what our hearts truly feel.
There are some people that struggle with thinking positive or saying positive things for many reason. Maybe throughout their journey they've been hurt, or put down. When you behave in like manner, it reveals what's really going on inside of you. When the going gets tough, take some time out to regroup, and talk with the someone you trust. Ask for guidance and help. We don't always think so, but just maybe a change is needed. Use your words in a positive way. Use your words to encourage, strengthen and build others up. Words are powerful. They could either build you up, or tear you down. Are you building people up, or are you tearing them down by what you say? Think about it. Sarcasm hurts!!!
Just a fast fact for a child who may be struggling academically or behaviorally in school. There could be multiple reason why your child may be acting out. There could be so much going on inside of his brain and he lacks the ability to effectively communicate what it may be. We have to stop looking at the child as just being a problem child, or child that does not like to listen well.
Many children with sensory processing disorders struggle in ways we could never imagine. They are contending with so many sensory inputs at one time that it become overwhelming, and short of an overlod, which causes their behavioral meltdowns. My son has sensory processing disorder. On of the major deficits he struggled with is auditory processing disorder. What's very frustrating is that you can not see his disability and to the natural eye it doesn't exist.
Because of this disorder, a child can be a superior reader (which Josiah is) but struggle in the classroom because his auditory system is out of balance. He can have perfect hearing (which Josiah does) but still not be able to process all of what a teacher is saying. Book learning is not a problem specifically, but learning in general is a challenge because he is not effectively processing Verbal Instruction.
Imagine being in a crowded room where everyone is talking, horns are blowing, paino is playing, baby is crying, someone is laughing, chairs are scratching the floor.... And all this is going on at the same time, and you hear it all. How can you make sense of what you need to focus on, or what's being said or directed at you. You can't! It becomes difficult, overwhelming, too loud and stress. Now just imagine not being able to escape that noise and you're being force to stay in it and deal with it. Well you will fight your way out; thus and emotional, physical and aggressive meltdown occurs.
So I say to you, don't be afraid to dig deeper, and find the root cause of your child's problem. You can change your child's life for the better if you're just not afraid to face the facts!
I hope this has helped someone....
April is Autism Awareness Month. My goal is to spread awareness to everyone about this developmental disability, known as ASD or Autism Spectrum Disorder. Autism affects 1 in every 68 individuals. More boys are affected by this disorder than girls. Research shows that it is four to five times more likely to occur in boys than in girls. Currently, there is no single cause or known cure for Autism Disorder, just as there is no one type of autism. Over the last five years, scientists have identified a number of rare gene changes, or mutations, associated with autism. A small number of these are sufficient to cause autism by themselves. Most cases of autism, however, appears to be caused by a combination of autism risk genes and environmental factors.
I'm a licensed Clinical Social worker, license to work in the State of Pennsylvania. I have over 19 years experience working in the Mental Health Field as a Child Welfare Worker, Administrator, Consultant, Educator and Clinician. I'm dedicated and committed to the work I do which includes impacting and changing lives. In my spare time I like to write poetry, watch movies, and share my thoughts through blogging.