Dreams are important but don’t lose yourself chasing your dream. I know for a fact how important it is to be able to birth that idea or gift that has been placed inside of you. Sometimes it becomes so overwhelming that you just don’t know what to do. It's like, when you look around, all you see is everyone else excelling. It appears to be that everyone else is becoming what they’ve set out to be.
This perception that you hold of other's success begins to make you think that you're falling behind, and before you know it, you start feeling lost and confused and wondering what has happened to you. What I've learned is that if you ponder in those thoughts long enough, you’ll begin to feel hopeless and in despair, and ultimately you’ll start contemplating abandoning your dreams.
Just because you see it, doesn’t mean you have to be it. Well, be it, right now that is. Everything happens for a reason, and as the Bible teaches us, there is a time and season for everything under the sun. You’ve got to Know when it’s your time to move, and when it's your time to just stand still. You can’t live another persons life, or walk another persons walk. You have to move to the beat of your own drum. You must concentrate on staying in your lane, riding your ride, and keeping your stride. Your story is yours, and your life belongs to you.
So, here’s my advice. Look at your life like you're telling us a story. You're experiences are the pages in the book and each chapter has its' own purpose and it's own meaning. Each chapter in the book are a compilation of plots with a larger story to tell. The story of your life is building up to a culminating end, but like every thing in life, there are phases and stages of growth and development that it must go through. This is the process of your life, and it's your story to tell.
Lastly, as you move forward, understand that you do have choices. You can drown in your own thoughts, sink in your words or die by destruction due to your untimely actions. Or you can climb the ladder of success by working the process, keeping the faith and never losing hope. Don’t let former one become you. This is your life, and your story to tell! Do it your way!
I want to share with you My Truth about Gabrielle Union and the book "We're Going to Need More Wine."
In all truth an honesty, I never cared for Gabrielle Union as an entertainer. I always felt that she was snooty and pretentious and a black woman who did not like being "Black.". It was something about her that was very concerning for me and I always thought she had deeply rooted issues (that's the clinician in me). Because of that intuition, I felt sorry for her and secretly wished that she would get therapy and work out her issues.
I bought the book only because friends of mine suggested it and that we read and discuss it in a book group/reading club. So I obliged. It took a while for me to sit down and began to indulge. It was a slow read for me but eventually I got into it. As I flipped through the chapters, there were things that confirmed my dislike for her and in a sense mad me a bit angry. But I continued to read (... And I'm glad I did)
I want to give credit to Gabrielle Union for being so open, honest, and raw in this book. What the book did for me was confirmed my belief and soften my heart toward her. I appreciate her story telling and realize that help and healing comes in so many ways. I believe she found herself and her healing through telling her truth and sharing her story. She became a hero for me in a sense that she decided to live and be her Authentic Self. This book opened a new pathway for her to now be free, and transition to a new level in her career and be inspiration for Black Professional Women who are afraid of themselves.
Her words and her story gave me hope. There's so much that I can do with this book (In Therapy Sessions with Young Girls) to inspire and help them to live their best lives and be their Authentic Selves. No matter what side of them track you live one, growing up black doesn't come without a struggle. Just learning about her experience has insight into her own pain and struggle of being a black woman in America.
Mrs. Gabrielle Union, I thank you and I applaud for recognizing your own weakness and shortcoming and for being able to express and share that in such a way that changed the face of who you are and showed us your real strength. You're my hero!
I'm a licensed Clinical Social worker, license to work in the State of Pennsylvania. I have over 19 years experience working in the Mental Health Field as a Child Welfare Worker, Administrator, Consultant, Educator and Clinician. I'm dedicated and committed to the work I do which includes impacting and changing lives. In my spare time I like to write poetry, watch movies, and share my thoughts through blogging.